Many, many years ago I kept running into a problem.
My heart kept getting broken.
Ever been there?
If you’re over the age of 13 then I think it’s safe to say that you have.
Having a broken heart is one of the worst feelings, it hinders your life in several ways:
- Your work suffers
- Your other relationships suffer
- Your sleep is affected
- Your time with God is hindered
- I’m sure you can think of more…
So after heartbreak #32 I decided I was going to do something about this.
I decided I was going to go to God’s Word and figure out how to beat this problem once and for all.
Take a look here in Proverbs 13:12, it hints at the issue:
It tells us that, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick…”
Romans 5:5 then tells us that when our hope is in God, “…this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.”
It dawned on me, I had put my HOPE in that relationship. My hope (my expectation) was that this relationship would become the fairytale romance we all want.
My hope is supposed to be in my relationship with God! Not my relationship with a girl!
That’s why my heart was sick.
I simply put my expectation in the wrong thing.
It was a simple equation to figure out:
1. When I put my hope in God alone, it will not lead to disappointment.
2. I was disappointed, therefore I had put my hope somewhere else.
I expected something that I should not have been expecting. It’s as simple as that.
Look, you want to get married. I get it, I did too. And now that I am married I want you to know that it’s even better than you can imagine.
How to get there, without getting your butt kicked along the way:
Once I shifted my mindset in this way, I never got my heart broken again.
Instead of me hoping that each dating relationship would end up in marriage, I simply began to put my trust in God that He would bring the desires of my heart to pass, which in this case was a wifey.
But not just any wifey, THE ONE HE PICKED FOR ME. I learned I didn’t want to pick any more, I wasn’t very good at it.
I stopped looking at dating as “spouse shopping.” I simply sought the Lord on who HE wanted me to marry! (He’ll show you if you ask!)
It’s not up to you to go hunt down a spouse and make this marriage thing happen.
You don’t have to “earn a wife” by being a super perfect Christian. Nothing about this is performance based.
I knew that God had that perfect spouse for me that He planned before time began.
In faith, I rested in that. I didn’t stress or freak out because I was getting older and still not married, no way!
My hope, my trust, is in Him, not my own abilities.
Cast this care upon the Lord, for He cares for you affectionately.
Keep your hope in Him, don’t give your heart away until you’re married.
Do this, and you’ll have a supernatural peace the whole time.
It worked for me, it will work for you.
IF you want more instruction on how to not get your heart broken, including action steps and strategies on “Marrying God’s Best” you will want to check out our entire module on this subject in the Increase Academy. Click here for more details.